“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly”. –Sam Keen
Marriage is an important, but increasingly difficult aspect of Chinese society. Partly as a result of the government’s one-child policy “approximately 30 million more men than women will reach adulthood and enter China’s mating market by 2020“¹ Combine that with the increase in educated and financially independent women who are choosing to not get married² and you get the Shanghai Marriage Market, where mothers, fathers, grandparents and even professional matchmakers advertise the availability of their children, grandchildren and clients. A typical listing, clipped to an umbrella, will provide the person’s year of birth (1981), height (1.63 meter), monthly salary and educational or professional achievement. If they own a car, or their own apartment that sweetens the deal. Held every Saturday and Sunday afternoon, hundreds of bride hawkers and groom seekers line the paths of the northwest corner of Shanghai’s People’s Park, just outside the entrance to the Museum of Contemporary Art. There is even an International section for the advertising of your children that live abroad.
As a westerner who met his wife in a
bar restaurant, I can’t imagine my parents sitting in the park on a sunny, Saturday afternoon with an 8 x 10, laminated sheet of paper pinned to an umbrella hoping that someone would be attracted to:
1957, 1.85 meter, 75 kilo, unemployed, lives at home (again), wrecked his motorcycle, in college forever, possible substance abuse issues. Take him. Please!