Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make me a match

“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly”. –Sam Keen

Marriage is an important, but increasingly difficult aspect of Chinese society. Partly as a result of the government’s one-child  policy “approximately 30 million more men than women will reach adulthood and enter China’s mating market by 2020“¹ Marriage Market-000399 Combine that with the increase in educated and financially independent women who are choosing to not get married² and you get the Shanghai Marriage Market, where mothers, fathers, grandparents and even professional matchmakers advertise the availability of their children, grandchildren and clients. A typical listing, clipped to an umbrella, will provide the person’s year of birth (1981), height (1.63 meter), monthly salary and educational or professional achievement. If they own a car, or their own apartment that sweetens the deal. Held every Saturday and Sunday afternoon, hundreds of bride hawkers and groom seekers line the paths of the northwest corner of Shanghai’s People’s Park, just outside the entrance to the Museum of Contemporary Art. There is even an International section for the advertising of your children that live abroad.

As a westerner who met his wife in a bar restaurant, I can’t imagine my parents sitting in the park on a sunny, Saturday afternoon with an 8 x 10, laminated sheet of paper pinned to an umbrella hoping that someone would be attracted to:

1957, 1.85 meter, 75 kilo, unemployed, lives at home (again), wrecked his motorcycle, in college forever, possible substance abuse issues. Take him. Please!

4 thoughts on “Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make me a match

  1. Your parents did pawn you off on somebody; ME!
    They got you out of the house working for a wholesale florist
    and created the Baby Boomer version of the “Odd Couple”. (I admit to being Oscar).
    It was fun while it lasted. But if I didn’t get shipped off to Hartford at an inopportune time you
    may never have had a failed first marriage and the time-line cascade that led to your current adventure.
    Let’s do it again!!!

  2. Great way to start the morning with a belly laugh. Thanks for sharing this amazing adventure with us Thom & Melinda.


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